Contradictions

life is full of contradictions
people can be chameleons
avoiding responsibility
maladaptive to their environment

pursuer and distancer
direct and ambiguous
honest and deceitful
cheater and the cheated
jealous and untrustworthy
object of obsession and obsessed
manipulated and manipulator
criticized and critical
changing for and wanting change
silent treatment and passive aggressive

sometimes people take responsibility
after visiting all of the islands:
obligation, shame, blame, justification, denial, quit

sometimes attachment styles shift:
avoidant, ambivalent, disorganized
secure attachment can still be reached

sometimes situations repeat until lessons are learned
before saying “I would never,” consider:
you don't know how you’ll react
until it happens to you